Do you feel like you have changed at all in the last 6 months? I totally have, I am a new person! This feels like a really extreme statement and even as I am writing it, I wonder if I am being dramatic. But when I look back to where I was last spring and where I am now; I really have changed. I am a new and improved version of Kathy. I think differently; I manage my thoughts and my feelings in a new way, I respond to contention calmly and I absolutely feel totally different about myself.
Six months ago, I found a Life Coach. To say this has been a spiritual journey is completely accurate. I had been praying to find something in my life that I felt excited about. I was definitely not looking for self-improvement, but just for a way to be more anxiously engaged in life. In the February, my sister recommended a podcast of an LDS life coach and I started listening for pure entertainment. It focused significantly on motherhood and because I am an empty nester, most of the content wasn’t applicable to me. For some reason, I continued to listen, and ever so slowly I started to learn concepts and principles that were totally new ideas to me.
One month later, I signed up for a life coaching program. Never having done anything like this before, I was nervous. Self-help and self-improvement had never been interesting to me before. But this was different; it felt safe. The program involved me watching other people get coached online. And I did this over and over again until it really started consuming my life. I found that as I watched a variety of people, with an even larger range of problems get coached, that I actually was being coached myself.
I learned that thoughts are what create my feelings. The situations I find myself in and my circumstances can be neutral; the way I choose to feel about them is what creates my feelings and also my results. If I have thoughts in my head that are discouraging, or not serving me, I don’t have to keep them. I have the power within myself to change those thoughts.
So how is the new Kathy different from the 6 month ago Kathy? I am choosing to be “all in” in my life. I am choosing to not indulge in thoughts of what I look like or comparing myself to others. I am choosing to be in my own head, and not worry about controlling the thoughts of others around me. I am exploring new ideas of what I am capable of and how I can make a difference in other people’s lives. I can’t even imagine where the next 6 months will take me.